I think it's easy to make things more complicated than they need to be. Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction.
1. Successful relationships take work. They don't happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that's going on in their hearts and heads.
2. You can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that after a while he or she will alter behaviors you find uncomfortable, think again. If you want changes, put them on the table, so your partner knows what you need.
3. All arguments stem from our own fear or pain. When you become upset, check out what's going on inside you rather than getting angry with your partner. Truth is, we usually aren't upset for the reasons we think we are.
4. Understand that men and women are very different. We're not from Mars or Venus; we're not even in the same solar system. Understanding and celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful, interesting and fun.5. Honor each other in some way every day. Every morning, you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by recommitting to your mate. Whether it's a good morning text, or a breakfast in bed. feeling respected and cherished by the one you love makes life much nicer.
6. Anger is a waste of time. Anger also is a relationship killer because it makes you self-absorbed and won't allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what's going on for you.7. Get regular tune-ups. Go to a couples workshop, talk with a counselor or read a relationship book together at least once a year. I would only suggest this for serious/married couples. But if you're not into this idea just talk about your relationship with one another. This process alone will strengthen your connection.
8. Find a way to become and stay best friends. For some, this sounds unromantic, but for those who live it, most say it's the best part of their time together. It's a great thing when you can just be yourself. When you're each other's best friends, that bridges the gap between your personal friends and your partner
9. Be responsible for your own happiness. No other person can make you happy. It's something that you have to do on your own. If you feel that it's your partner's fault, think again, and look within to find out what piece may be missing for you.
10. Give what you want to get. Our needs change with time. If you'd like to feel understood, try being more understanding. If you want to feel more love, try giving more. It's a simple program that really works.
There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and stronger relationships than those who are not proactive in their love.
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Good One.. I def agree that relationships take work and regular tune-ups. Keeping it in check is VITAL... You have to check up every thing else in life (so what makes relationships different)
Another good point is that youre in charge of your own happiness!! Too many times ladies look to these dudes to make them happy...smh
I dont agree that all arguments stem from our own fear or pain.. sometimes Im right and ur just wrong! haha j/k but i dont totally agree.
I love love love honoring eachother in some way. Its the simple things that count. ALSO I love that it addresses that MEN AND WOMEN ARE VERY DIFFERENT! Once you realize that, you'll see things in a different light.
I would continue commenting, but I would just agree with the other things listed..
Great Article, I hope ppz take the time to read this one
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