Who loves relationship break-ups? Anyone? Yeah, I didn't think so. As much as we might not like them, the fact is that break-ups are a part of reality. Browsing the web, we found some awesome tips from sheknows.com for the women out there. We'll share them with you and, of course, add our elleELLEeye flare. She says:
REDIRECT YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGY
Trade male bashing for some sweating -- we mean glistening, for us ladies...
We say:
Exercise not only stimulates your body, making it feel better, but you will soon see the benefits of your hard work. This will turn that messy break up into a new reason to go shopping :)
She says:
TAKE TIME FOR EXTREME SELF CARE
People tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, says Heidi Frei, life coach of Heidi Frei Coaching & Consulting...
We say:
Listen, what happened, happened! You can't change the past. All you can do is reflect on what happened, and work on how you will make things better the next time you're in a relationship (and trust me, there will be a "next time").
She says:
LISTEN TO YOURSELF
Frei notes one of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is not putting themselves first. To resolve this unsettled feeling, she recommends beginning a journal...
We say:
Not only can this journal give you a chance to get out all the feelings you might have had bottled up during the relationship (as She mentions later in the blurb), but when you write down your true feelings, you can keep them as a reminder of WHY the relationship is over. This will help you from slipping into the "sick cycle" of breaking up and making up.
She says:
TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR WOULD
If you can't treat yourself with love, how will someone else? Frei says it's important to "treat yourself like you want your ideal partner to treat you." ...
We say:
Enough said!
She says:
REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Relationships are often filled with many compromises. Create a vision board: cut out pictures and words from magazines that are meaningful to you in a relationship, (or print your own) and paste them to a poster board. This constant visual reminder will fill your mind with positive energy and remind you what can be achieved each day.
We say: Sometimes when you're "caught up" in a relationship, you forget exactly what it is you said you wouldn't stand for. "Write the vision and make it plain". We encourage you to always keep this board up as a reminder while you're in your next relationship.
She says
TAKE TIME TO GRIEVE AND START WITH A CLEAN SLATE
People heal at different paces. Allow yourself time to feel, cry. "Clear up reminders," says Frei, by purging things in your living space that remind you of the person. Don't get involved in a new relationship too quickly, which may transfer feelings from your old relationship to the new one...
We say:
And as you grieve (because break-ups are a loss) be mindful that there becomes a thin line between getting your feelings out and a pitty party. Feel! Let it all out and then get active. Even if you don't feel like it, getting active is the best way to avoid depression. Spending some time with GOOD friends and family also help. So please take time to grieve, but please be healthy as you do so.
She says:
ENRICH OTHERS THROUGH VOLUNTEERING
Volunteering is a great way to achieve self-actualization while helping others. You may not feel like volunteering. Regardless, Dr. Trent believes "actions dictate feelings, not the reverse. When we begin to take actions that are positive...that generates positive feelings. Not the opposite."...
We say:
Volunteer, help a friend, help a family member, just put yourself out there to spread love.
Have any experience with some of these tips
or have any other tips you want to share?
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elleELLEeye twist added by
DANiE
Spread Love. Live life. Be Inspired.
REDIRECT YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGY
Trade male bashing for some sweating -- we mean glistening, for us ladies...
We say:
Exercise not only stimulates your body, making it feel better, but you will soon see the benefits of your hard work. This will turn that messy break up into a new reason to go shopping :)
She says:
TAKE TIME FOR EXTREME SELF CARE
People tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, says Heidi Frei, life coach of Heidi Frei Coaching & Consulting...
We say:
Listen, what happened, happened! You can't change the past. All you can do is reflect on what happened, and work on how you will make things better the next time you're in a relationship (and trust me, there will be a "next time").
She says:
LISTEN TO YOURSELF
Frei notes one of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is not putting themselves first. To resolve this unsettled feeling, she recommends beginning a journal...
We say:
Not only can this journal give you a chance to get out all the feelings you might have had bottled up during the relationship (as She mentions later in the blurb), but when you write down your true feelings, you can keep them as a reminder of WHY the relationship is over. This will help you from slipping into the "sick cycle" of breaking up and making up.
She says:
TREAT YOURSELF LIKE A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR WOULD
If you can't treat yourself with love, how will someone else? Frei says it's important to "treat yourself like you want your ideal partner to treat you." ...
We say:
Enough said!
She says:
REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Relationships are often filled with many compromises. Create a vision board: cut out pictures and words from magazines that are meaningful to you in a relationship, (or print your own) and paste them to a poster board. This constant visual reminder will fill your mind with positive energy and remind you what can be achieved each day.
We say: Sometimes when you're "caught up" in a relationship, you forget exactly what it is you said you wouldn't stand for. "Write the vision and make it plain". We encourage you to always keep this board up as a reminder while you're in your next relationship.
She says
TAKE TIME TO GRIEVE AND START WITH A CLEAN SLATE
People heal at different paces. Allow yourself time to feel, cry. "Clear up reminders," says Frei, by purging things in your living space that remind you of the person. Don't get involved in a new relationship too quickly, which may transfer feelings from your old relationship to the new one...
We say:
And as you grieve (because break-ups are a loss) be mindful that there becomes a thin line between getting your feelings out and a pitty party. Feel! Let it all out and then get active. Even if you don't feel like it, getting active is the best way to avoid depression. Spending some time with GOOD friends and family also help. So please take time to grieve, but please be healthy as you do so.
She says:
ENRICH OTHERS THROUGH VOLUNTEERING
Volunteering is a great way to achieve self-actualization while helping others. You may not feel like volunteering. Regardless, Dr. Trent believes "actions dictate feelings, not the reverse. When we begin to take actions that are positive...that generates positive feelings. Not the opposite."...
We say:
Volunteer, help a friend, help a family member, just put yourself out there to spread love.
Have any experience with some of these tips
or have any other tips you want to share?
She.com Article found by
♥t i f f a n y
elleELLEeye twist added by
DANiE
Spread Love. Live life. Be Inspired.
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