ToP THIS: Healthy Relationship

If you’re in a healthy relationship, you know it. In fact, you and your mate likely worked hard to get to that point. However, it’s not always a clear when we’re NOT in a healthy love relationship. Why? Well, we usually carry on relationships in ways that we learned from others—and to us it seems normal. We may not realize that smiling, happy couples have problems behind closed doors. The healthy relationship signs below are meant to open your eyes to what healthy relationships are all about. It’s not all smiles and kissy-face; but it’s real. Happy reading!

A healthy relationship is when you can be your true selves with each other. You feel comfortable sharing your deepest thoughts, fears, and emotions with each other.You rarely lie to each other, but you also refrain from being brutally honest.

You respect each others’ privacy. You give each other space and/or “Me time.” You make it through rough times as a couple without splitting up.You and your mate completely deal with your problems, refusing to leave them unresolved until resentments form. You both listen without interrupting. You don’t tell each other what you should or shouldn’t think/feel, but in case you do, you forgive each other for mistakes. 

In having a healthy relationship, you must have a strong friendship.You speak each others’ Love Language, even if it’s different from your own. You willingly make sacrifices for each other. You share mutual interests and activities. There is mutual trust and dedication.

You treat each other the way you would like to be treated, not necessarily the way you feel you’re being treated at the moment. You respect each others’ individuality and make the most of your differences. You act as each others’ backbone, providing loving support without guilt. You share spiritual beliefs or a spiritual connection. You show sensitivity to each others’ needs. You discuss and negotiate instead of fighting. Each partner takes responsibility for their own thoughts and feelings.

In addition to loving each other, you genuinely like each other. You don’t judge or force your opinions on each other. You take quality time to nurture your relationship. Both partners maintains his/her own set of boundaries and respects the boundaries of the other. You are both attentive to the needs of yourself and the other. You enjoy physical contact (hugs, kisses, cuddling) together. You show appreciation for each other. You communicate openly and meaningfully with each other.

Hardship, uncertainty, and disagreements are accepted as a part of life. You agree (or genuinely agree to disagree) on financial matters. There is equal power between you and your mate. You keep your expectations of each other in check. You genuinely apologize to one another when feelings are hurt.You and your mate speak up assertively instead of expecting the other to read minds. You both eliminate passive aggressive behavior (ignoring, silent treatment, eye rolling, stomping, hanging up the phone) as much as possible. You have a strong sense of interdependence (mutual responsibility) to each other rather than dependence or co-dependence.

Most importantly, you CAN live without each other, but you choose each other over every alternative choice.

Every relationship has its challenges. Instead of using the signs that you’re in a healthy relationship as a way to judge yourself and your mate, use them as a guide to growth. After all, relationship success is a part of self-improvement success.

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How Do You Rate on A Date?

I was running through the Metro newspaper on my train ride this morning, and I came across this tidbit about dinner date etiquette. I find it interesting how things such as these natural acts can warrant a "How-to" manual; but then again Barnes and Nobles sells a "..For Dummies" book for just about everything imagineable.


In retrospect when in dire straits, I can see the benefit of dating tips. Consider that crucial moment where you go blank and can't remember to a tee what your plan for success was. There is a "How To" that can help. When was the last time you met that person whom you deemed "The One"; dropped the ball when it came time to go out on a date? If you did, this is for you. Now I can't guarantee that a second chance is in your future, but if it is, TAKE ADVANTAGE! This time around follow the blueprint and you too can be a dinner date success:

1. Never sit next to each other on one side of a table unless you’re being filmed for a reality TV show. Be adults and sit facing each other. The romance of staring into each other’s eyes over a candlelit table should be enough.


2. Guys, don’t order for the woman. She’s an adult: She can make up her own mind and speak for herself.


3. Don’t order “just a salad.” This tells your date you’d rather count calories than embrace the date and all its pleasures, including the gastronomic ones. But don’t order the lobster, unless it’s been clearly established that you’re paying.


4. If you have to use the powder room, just say, “Excuse me, please.” Your date needn’t know specifics.

5. No cell phones at the table, please, even if you’re dining at Denny’s. (Good manners don’t discriminate against even the tackiest of eating establishments.) If you absolutely, positively must take a call, keep your phone on vibrate, but don’t whip it out. Wait for an appropriate pause in conversation to excuse yourself from the table to take the call. However, it had better be an emergency.


6. Don’t start eating until your date has also been served. Don’t touch your silverware until his or her dish has made contact with the table linen. Even if your date insists you go ahead.


7. Discussing the etymology of “The Dirty Sanchez” is unacceptable dinner conversation — save that for the bar.


8. Don’t gesture with your silverware.


9. Do not ask to sample your date’s plate unless he or she offers first. Some people are funny about that. On the other hand, if your date is clearly suffering from entree envy, consider offering a trade.


10. Be courteous to the wait-staff. Never snap, clap, cry “Waiter!” or worse, “Garcon!” Wait until you catch your server’s eye, then nod, smile or subtly raise your hand. If you’re rude to the service industry professionals, it tells your date that you have the potential to be rude to anyone. And finally, if you’re picking up the bill, then tip 20 percent unless you want to look like a cheapskate.


We all know first impressions are lasting, and presentation is paramount. Quality time is like an intereview when courting. Don't kid yourself by assuming that you know everyting about the intricacies of dating. An old dog can learn new tricks; everyday of your life is an opportunity to do better than before. Ever wondered why your love life never improves? The reason is, YOU NEVER IMPROVE. Here's your chance.


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Tips are courtesy of MetroNY- March 9th 2011

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Feel Your Boobies

We're still in the month of breast cancer awareness, and one cannot stress the importance of your health. For women (and men) out there, it's important that you get checked for the disease, the earlier the better. Some people may be freaked out or afraid of what the results may be, but even if you find a lump, it may be a benign cyst and not as serious as you think. If you're afraid to go to a doctor, it's okay. You can feel your own boobies first!

Here's a short video demonstration on how to perform a breast exam.

Although you can perform this self-test, it's important that you go see a doctor/physician to validate your findings or lack there of. Find a friend to do the self-exam with you, that way you won't freak out as much. Don't wait too long - early detection doesn't mean your life is over, it just means you have more time to enjoy it once you're healthy. No one will care for your body if you don't!

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Pretty effFLY FOR A _____ GUY: Bottega Veneta

When one thinks of "Menswear", what comes to mind? Slacks, suiting, tailored fits, masculine maybe? Sure! But let's not forget the texture, leather, classic suiting, splashes of color and Bottega Veneta. Bringing back our Pretty effFLY For A _______ Guy trend, Veneta gave me all that I love in menswear.

Fashion Writer, Tim Blanks gave us his review/scoop on Veneta's inspiration for this collection. Ry Cooder's music for Paris, Texas is practically the loneliest sound in the world. That made it an appropriate intro for Tomas Maier's new collection, in which he imagined a man on a road trip to rediscover a country he'd spent too much time flying over. The scenario offered the designer a golden opportunity to develop his signature blend of the hyper-casual and the super-formal, and he made the most of it.

But things really came into their own with a series of monochrome outfits in maroon, petrol blue, and olive green, especially a coat, pants, top, and intrecciato tote, all in the same military shade. Maier found his models all over the place, from L.A. to B.A. (as in Buenos Aires), and their sensual polymorphisms perfectly suited the road-trip theme—a valuable reminder of how much casting can add to a show.

For more background on the inspiration behind the line - and for more pictures of the BV looks - visit style.com.

Guys, do you like what you see?
Like it? Love it? COMMENT!

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TOP THiS: M'eye' Endless Love

It's easy to find sexual ways to rekindle your relationship, but sex isn't everything... right?
In this TOP THiS, I'll give you some of the top ways to maintain your endless love without getting freaky

Get Spiritual: There's something about having a spiritual connection with your partner that makes the heart grow fonder. Whether it's reading a bible together, jamming out to your favorite song or having a deep conversation about God, life and love, strengthening your spiritual bond will do wonders for your endless love.


Spend time apart: How ironic is it that spending time apart will help your endless love life? Everyone knows it, but how many people believe it? The more time your are around your partner, the less time you spend thinking about him/her and the more time you spend getting annoyed at little things. In the beginning you might want to spend every moment together, but slow down, it will eventually get old and lead to "now what?"

Forgive and Forget: Let the past stay in the past. If you decided to forgive your partner, its not fair to bring it up later. If you do bring it up, that means you haven't fully forgiven him/her. That ultimately means you are harboring resentment and how can love grow in such harsh environments?!

Make New Memories: Movies and dinner are alright if that's your thing, but let's throw caution to the wind and try something crazy, something new, something unheard of to you and your partner. Take a dance class together, volunteer at an animal hospital, go on a nature walk. I DON'T KNOW! Just keep it new and fresh. You both might be apprehensive at first but the experience could turn out to be something you both loved... or hated. Either way its a new memory and a stronger bond.


Don't take your partner for granted: Easier said than done huh? Show your partner that you appreciate him/her. Leave a little note in his/her coat pocket so when s/he least expects s/he'll find a little loving. Any little way you can show you care, go for it. It's one thing to know you are appreciated, but its another thing to feel appreciated.

Deuces,
DANiE
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Trend Check: Fall Essentials

The summer's coming to a close, and for me that is more than enough to put a smile on my face. I love Autumn...the temperature, the colors, and the fashion. Doesn't everything seem easy, breezy and laid back in the fall? That's because it is! You don't have to worry about being too hot or too cold and everything always seems just right. But don't step out this Fall season without your fashion essentials! Yes, the color scheme for the fall usually remains the same every year; the burgundy, beige, forest green, teal and golds. Yet and still, there are some fashion items that we all should have in our closets and if not, make it a priority to purchase them.

The Blazer/Cardigan - The "Cardi" has been a hit in the fashion world for the past couple of years. With the "boyfriend" fit for the ladies, to the different lengths and styles, it can be the perfect touch to a lackluster outfit. A blazer has the same effect, and will add a chic and stylish touch to almost any outfit. Same rule applies for the men, keep it simple & add that cardigan or blazer for the dapper touch! (Embellished pocket cardigan from jcrew.com)

The Dark Rinse Denim - No matter who you are, you must have a pair of basic jeans.

With the fall you can wear the lighter washes while it's still nice out, but make sure you have a dark rinse pair of denim jeans. Darker denims/jeggings add a richness to your outfit. (J. Crew Relaxed fit jeans $96, Skinny dark rinse - Old Navy $34.50)


The Boots - Whether they're canvas, leather, cowboy, or moto boots, you can't go wrong! Unless of course, you try to do too much with your outfit. Boots are a necessity for the all. Your color choice should be brown, black, or tan. These colors are neutral and will nicely compliment the rest of your wardrobe. (Men's canvas boots: Topshop.com $80, Wmns boots: Coach.com $348)


The Button Up - A classic shirt that can be dressed for a casual day - or a day at work. The button up comes in so many different textures, colors, length and detailing, that it's almost impossible for one not to find the right fit for themselves. Plaids, floral, stripes and solids are a thumbs up for the fall! (NY & Co Boyfriend Denim shirt $39.95, Flannel J. Crew Shirt)


The Coat (or jacket) - Named "The Ultimate Investment Piece" by TopShop.com, a coat/jacket for the fall is definitely worth the money and time it takes to find the right color, style and fit! Here's where you can have fun before you have to throw on the bulky winter coat. When purchasing a fall coat, look for something that you can dress up and dress down. Also, leave a little room for layering - especially since you're investing in a coat that may cost more than the other items in your wardrobe, you want to have the option to wear it in the years to come.

The best thing about these items is that they're simple, and can be mix-and-matched with a number of different items. One of the plus sides to the fall is that you can certainly layer your outfits. Where to shop? Top Shop, Old Navy, Gap, Macys, H&M, or even bargain stores such as Target or Sears. Remember to have fun with fall fashion, and don't hesitate to take some of your summer items and transition them to this season. For instance, take a look at Perla's Perfect Transition Shoes post. Happy shopping!

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"I'm a Cash Cow...

...I'm bout to cash out". Words from Jay-Z over the Grammy family beat for Funk Flex on Hot 97. In this case I would assume that NIKE would be trying to profit off of that fact. The man has made millions off music, clothing, sneakers (remember the S dot Carters); all of which substantiates his hustlers ambition. But this ladies and gentlemen is a stretch. I can admit the sneakers are good money but 5 stacks for em - NOT I. I take issue with things like this: the theory that we as consumers will buy anything peddled to us by "icons", well I am here to stand up for all mankind and say that THIS MUST STOP. Sorry Jay, I ride with you through anything but this is not going down. How about we reconsider and take about $4900 off the tag and bring these back for Christmas. Fourth quarter will be yours homey.

If you're unaware of what's going on with these all black Nikes, Jay-Z has officially blasted Nike’s four day World Basketball Festival off with a bangin’ performance at Radio City Music Hall. He’s also stepping up for charity, with this special pack of five Jay-Z All Black Everything AF1s being auctioned right now on the ebay, with proceeds going to the Shawn Carter Scholarship Foundation. There’s a shoe for each of the five nations competing in the WBF throw-down, with each shoe featuring a different premium upper. The only other person in the world to own a pair of these black beauties will be Jay-Z himself. BFF! If you've got the pockets you can place your bids here (SF).

See more of the collection here
By: Basquiat

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Trend Check: URBAN FOLK

Start putting the shorts away and get read for the season of Autumn. The trend check has been set by Top Man and Urban Folk it is. Anything from layering flannels, sweaters, fine vintage knits and slim fit chinos; all is acceptable for the trendsetting male this season. The look is completed with fine detail prints, fair-isle accessories and hiking boot inspired footwear. We've pulled some items that will guide you in putting together some great looks. From Top Man, to Old Navy - these items are affordable and durable! Happy shopping!

Berry Laundered Hooded Check - Price: $70.00 (Top Man)
Long sleeve casual berry laundered check shirt with hood.

BEN SHERMAN SUEDE DESERT BOOT - Price: $120.00 (Top Man)
Beige suede Ben Sherman desert boot.

VINTAGE DENIM SHIRT - Price: $52.00 (Top Man)
Short-Sleeve Denim Shirt with Vintage Wash.

Raw Denim Slim Jeans - Price: $70.00 (Top Man)
Raw indigo denim jeans in a slim fit.

Men's Brushed Twill Military Jackets - $49.50 (Old Navy)
We'll salute your style when you put on this great looking military-inspired jacket. It's uniformly cool, with stand-up collar, buttoned epaulets, flap pockets and more. The rugged good looks are done in a brushed twill that feels good to the touch--and the jacket's fully lined.

Men's Poker-Graphic Tees - $12.50 (Old Navy)
They can't read your poker face, especially when this cool graphic tee's got your back! Vintage casino graphics help keep the stakes high and the winnings unlimited.

Brown Brushed Flannel Check - Price: $50.00 (Top Man)
Short sleeve cream, brown and green brushed flannel check shirt with roll-up sleeves.

Eight panel driver's cap - $16.50 (Gap)
Our driver's cap is a timeless style that tops off everything from jeans to khakis.

Mustard Carrot Fit Chinos - Price: $70.00 (Top Man)
Dress them up, or dress them down; either way every man should have another alternative other than jeans. Khakis are cool, but chinos add spunk to your look.

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eyeRock: Ransom x Adidas Kicks

As we kick into the next season of fashionm, Fall/Winter, ADIDAS X RANSOM VALLEY have teamed up to create some new kicks. These forthcoming Valley boots combine rugged good looks, cozily familiar colourways and a sophisticated palette of materials for another winter winner. A basic silhouette, from the ribbed collar to the vulcanized sole, it's a tough shoe to dislike, and in the right colours, like the navy suede with orange detailing, it's better than pretty much any other simple shape out there. Winter meant the bolder shades went into hibernation, while ripstop nylon versions of the new lower variation stole the high Valley's shine.


Keeping the finish matt, suede and canvas makes up this quartet, and the Deepest Green/Oak and Cardinal/Light Maroon variation, with a slightly washed-out look and leather collars and linings are the star here.

Keep your eyes peeled for new additions like the Strata and Crest, that run the roughneck spectrum from clean elegance to 40 Below design cues, capturing the full scope of Ransom and adidas's vision. This footwear is smartly executed, and all four makeups are set to arrive next month at the Crooked Tongues store.



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McQueen's Lasting Impression

Treat your feet like ROYALTY

Alexander McQueen is gone, but not forgotten. His creations are always unique, and memorable and for a fashion designer, that is always a great thing. His shoes, clothes and accessories have been on some of the hottest females in the entertainment industry, but now McQueen is looking to make an imprint on Men's Fashion. McQueen will release a line of shoes for men and here's the first of the bunch; a incredibly elegant in engraved leather boot with perfect finishes. And believe us when we say, they are already a collector's item.

We couldn't forget about the ladies!

As shown above, McQueen has these Cutout Zip Pumps. The are made of denim-print leather, silver hardware and have a zip detail across the vamp; with a skull pull. Fab, aren't they! If you're into them and are looking to add a McQueen piece to your collection, you can Get these Denim McQueen pumps for $795, now $556 here. For the men, you can Buy the boots now!

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The Alpha & the Jordan

AIR JORDAN ALPHA 1 OUTDOOR
(LASER BLUE)
When the streetball starts getting hot and heavy this summer, ice your feet in these new laser blue Air Jordan Alpha 1 Outdoors. Featuring enlarged perforations for increased ventilation plus a removable ankle collar to loosen the load, this cucumber-cool customer comes in a crisp two-tone grey colourway with a zap of electric teal and a frosty blue-slushy outsole (Sneaker Freaker).

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